What’s Behind Frequent Anger?

Behind all anger is some degree of frustration. We get irritated because we feel unable to control some situation, and even some person. That is clear. As is also the case that everyone, absolutely everyone, from time to time has anger or moments of bad humor. Little bursts of character that can be very healthy when caused by reasonable cause.

But what happens when the anger does not stop, when we remain almost all the time with a frown, our eyes half open and hunting for a fight? Could it be that we belong to that group of “grumpy by nature”, or is there something else there?

The answer is only one: behind the frequent anger there is more than a passing frustration; what is hidden is a disguised depression.

Chronic anger

Sometimes a bad mood is not a matter of a little while, but lasts for weeks, months or years. Sometimes the unusual thing is not that we have those flash fires in our character, but the serenity. Anger is becoming our “normal” way of being in life. Everything bothers us; we become intractable and getting out of hand is the predominant note.

In this case the anger is not directed against a particular person or situation. It just feels all the time and is experienced as intolerance, boredom, boredom.

In turn, it expresses itself through the classic attitudes: screaming, remaining restless and tense, and always having a self-disqualifying or critical comment for others at hand. Physically it manifests itself through permanent frowning, digestive problems and, most likely, difficulty sleeping properly.

The reasons that have driven you to internally antagonize who you are, surely have to do with the mental models that you manage unconsciously. There are some parameters that you have chosen to evaluate yourself, without being very clear why, and that are only serving to fail you over and over again. There are also unresolved experiences in your past. That’s why you get angry, but you don’t know it.

Fire and flame

It is not the case to enter here to analyze all the possible reasons why you have decided to become one of your worst enemies. They are deep in your mind, in the most remote part of your history. But what can be outlined is at least one question why so valid are the reasons that lead you to stay angry.

Forget about the others, because they will never behave exactly how you want or think they should behave. The others are just an excuse that you have used to express your anger. It is not its failures, nor the economic crisis, nor the war tension in Korea that make you irritable.

You just have an idea of ​​the “should be” in life and you can’t adjust to it. That makes you feel terribly bad; Not only do you judge yourself harshly, but you also blame and torment yourself. Paradoxically, your gigantic ego does not let you understand or forgive you.

Anger is like an internal fire that burns. An element capable of giving heat or destroying what it finds in its path. That undefined anger is also an internal force that you have not managed to appropriate. It can be the engine of great actions, but also the embers where the best moments of your life are consumed.

There is an issue that is pending with yourself, not with others. You have to figure it out and you will probably need help with it. What are you waiting for?