The Bright Side Of Anger

Things can be positive or negative depending on the glass you look at them with. While it is true that anger has a very bad press and has dug its own grave, as is popularly said, we have to learn to see the good part of this emotion.

Did you know that there is a silver lining to getting angry? Of course, as long as things are balanced, there are no problems. It is not always negative to have anger, and expressing it correctly can help us avoid many problems and even illnesses.

Anger is in a higher degree than simple anger or rage, although in many cases these three words are used as synonyms.

In a recent research in relation to anger, it is indicated that although we tend to think that this emotion is negative, primitive and does not do us good, in reality, this is not the case.

As I said at the beginning, everything bad always hides something good (imagine the Yin Yang symbol, for example).

Anger not only serves to make us feel bad, make unnecessary fights, say things that we will later regret and not measure the consequences of our actions, but it can also benefit us if we know how to use it to our advantage.

However, anger has been condemned for years, as something bad, destructive, that it was necessary to repress, divert or hide. Even today we continue to maintain that idea and try by all means not to show when we are angry. We believe that anger is something unreasonable, unspeakable and unprovable.

What are the benefits of expressing anger?

As with all emotions, anger also has its responsibilities, purposes, and reasons for existing. It can be used for good purposes. Do not you believe it? Now you will know why we are saying this:

First of all, being angry is a motivating force. How many times has it happened to you that after getting very angry about something you changed it or worked to improve it?

Anger is a way of opening or breaking down the mental and emotional barriers that we put on not to do different things. If something makes us angry, we will probably fix it.

Second, it has been proven that people who live angry are more optimistic. Yes, as you have read, although it may sound strange. People who get angry about something specific, as mentioned before, are the ones who take more action on the matter, as it is often expressed. This is why they know when something might work in the future and they become less pessimistic.

The third of the benefits of anger is that this feeling can help us relate to others. Since anger is a way of communicating what we feel, especially in what refers to what we consider unfair, it is excellent to explain to others what we think or feel.

We are often taught from a young age that anger is bad and dangerous and therefore should be hidden. However, if we gave ourselves the opportunity to express anger, there would be fewer problems. Hiding when we disagree with something or someone harms any relationship.

Did you know that anger allows us to know each other more? That’s right, since it gives us an idea of ​​how we really are, how we react to things that happen.

It gives us very valuable information if we know how to use it wisely, it helps to form an opinion of ourselves and to understand our lives a little better. Plus, it can be a wonderful way to motivate your own change.

Fifth, anger serves to reduce violence. Surely you have been surprised with this statement, and perhaps you have read the phrase again. We have not been wrong. As indicated in another of the previous points, anger has to do with the desire to solve problems, with not accepting what is unfair and with finding a solution for each situation.

Lastly, anger can be used as a good strategy in negotiations. Many people use this feeling to get what they want. While we cannot claim that this is legitimate, perhaps it is another positive characteristic of anger that is worth exploring.