Go Against The Current
You do everything you should do and yet you are unable to get rid of that feeling of emptiness, that voice inside you that tells you that something is missing. Has it happened to you? If your answer is affirmative, it is likely that you are living guided by the social dictates and the expectations of others. In this article, you will discover how important it is sometimes to go against the grain.
Living in society inevitably implies being influenced by judgments and peer pressure. To a greater or lesser extent, we all need to feel the approval of our environment. But when external opinions resonate too loudly in our minds, they can overshadow our own inner voice.
When this happens we disconnect from our essence, mission and vocation and wander aimlessly pursuing goals that are not ours. However, some people find lucidity and break the chains. They decide to listen and trust themselves and begin to swim in their own direction.
The origin of the “should”
When we come to this world we do so in a pure and free of inhibitions. Children are the expression of innocence and the absence of masks. However, as we grow older we begin to receive messages about what is expected of us. Through the relationship, our parents internalize what behaviors are acceptable and which are undesirable.
In this way we are covering ourselves with filters and impositions, on the other hand unavoidable to develop ourselves socially. We learn to keep the forms, to be polite, obedient, studious and responsible. Adults convey to us their expectations about how we should be, feel, and act.
As we get older, society instills in us a path, almost unique to all of us. We grow up thinking that we must study, find a stable and well-paid job and start a family. Additionally, gender roles are assigned that men and women feel called to fulfill.
But all of this tells us nothing about our deepest longings, our personal dreams, and the direction each of us wishes to take. First of all “should” there is no place for the “want” and in this way we end up carried away by a current that does not always lead us to where we want to go.
Go against the grain
Due to their own temperament and life experiences, some people are more motivated to go their own way. In this way they defy the rules and refuse to submit to what others have planned for them. However, the price to pay for this freedom is high.
Those who risk going against the current find themselves lacking in support and encouragement from those closest to them. His decisions are often condemned by the people around him, who try to redirect his steps towards a more common life.
Should your projects fail, this pressure becomes even more pressing. All those who from the beginning discouraged their “rebellion” find the perfect opportunity to emphasize that this person was wrong. It is at this point that many of the dreamers decide to fold candles and abide by what they are supposed to do.
Dare to break the chains
Regardless, each of us has a unique purpose and vocation. It is not logical to restrict our lives to a single option common to all human beings. Going with the flow will lead us, sooner or later, to a great feeling of frustration and dissatisfaction. Well, as much as we try to silence our inner voice, it will continue to whisper to us that we were born for something else.
Therefore, I recommend that you gather the courage to listen to your own wishes and pursue your own goals. Forget what others expect of you and ask yourself what it is that you want. At the end of the day, your life is solely yours and it is preferable to assume the consequences of your decisions than of the decisions of others.
If you want to pursue an unusual profession, silence the voice of fear and give it a try. If you love to travel, find a way to do it as much as you can. Choose your tastes, your aesthetics, your interests and your personality in a totally free way. Approve yourself for those who do not, trust yourself for those who are not able to believe. Let no one tell you how you should live.
