Get Closer To Your Children, Don’t Distance Yourself

With the lifestyle that we lead, each time we find ourselves much busier and without time to dedicate to ourselves and those we love the most. In all this, our children are, the main affected ones who see how their parents are distancing themselves more and more from them.

When we think about having children, assessing whether we can give them economic stability and finding an affirmative answer is important when taking the step. But, let’s not forget that before economic stability we have to assess whether we can and are willing to share quality time with them. We can give them an impressive toy room, full of stories with fantastic illustrations, but if they don’t have someone to play with or who to read them to them, it will not matter.

A child gives us a lot of joys but also presents us with a lot of challenges. Questions and more questions, for which sometimes we do not have the answer but somehow we have to answer with them. For this we have to listen to them, know them and convey to them with our affection that they can count on us. That they can do it with grandparents, siblings, uncles or the babysitter is fine, but the ones you need are your parents.

Lack of time or lack of interest?

It is normal for time with children to decrease when we are faced with an important project or with a lot of work. The problem is if when we have a free space we take advantage of it or, in reality, far from taking advantage of the time we throw it away.

This is a fairly common problem. We believe that we never have time, when we really should see how we can be more productive and make the most of the hours we have for ourselves.

It is true that, as parents, our work is also at home : doing laundry, preparing food, bathing and dressing our children… All of this takes up time, we feel exhausted and what we want is to rest.

But, our children deserve attention and we must make an effort to give them some of that time that we now have to focus on them. It’s complicated, we think we don’t have time! But, if we think about it, sometimes it is more of a “not wanting” than a “not being able to”.

The brain becomes immature. Those areas of it related to emotions are not properly developed and, therefore, there is a poor response to these stimuli to which children have not been exposed.

But, we can think that this only has to do with emotions, when it really goes much further. The study also found that having absent parents can lead to serious learning disabilities, as well as a much lower IQ.

Sometimes there is no difference between parents who spend time with their children and those who rarely see them. The important thing is knowing how to approach them, share things, talk and pay attention to them. The problem with adults is that we consider our concerns to be more important when, in reality, there is nothing more important than being there for our children.

It is not only the problems that, as we have seen, can arise, but the valuable time that we are wasting and how irresponsible we are not being there to teach our children how to take their first steps in this world. Let’s think about when we were little, didn’t we need parents present?