Defend Against Ill-thought-out People

Badly thought out people have always been and always will be. We cannot expel them from our life so easily, because often, they are an inevitable part of it: family, friends … Far from being influenced or even tortured by their projections, comments and thoughts, it is much better to learn to face them, to be a little more waterproof than them, thus maintaining a healthy and healthy distance.

Now, let’s go a little further. What is behind ill-thought-out people? Is it perhaps a disease, a distinctive personality trait? The reality is that these types of profiles combine in their behavior a series of very  interesting traits to address. A way of understanding them that will undoubtedly help us.

Negative thoughts and self-esteem

We already have an almost essential clue about ill-thought-out people: self-esteem. Surely you’ve experienced more than one similar situation yourself: people who, without knowing why, and despite having a close relationship with you, almost always distrust what you say to them. Of what you do They do not believe your words and tend to deduce totally wrong and misplaced aspects. Even extreme.

Psychologists Abalakina-Paap, M. Stephan, Winston Craig from the University of California point us to something important thanks to a study. The human brain is characterized by mistrust. This is so for a very simple fact: we managed to be more prudent to guarantee our survival. However, there are profiles more distrustful than others. Those who are unable to build bonds based on trust and respect for those around them.

Distrust and low self-esteem, the circle of suffering

Distrustful people are always aware of everything that others say or do, interpreting, sometimes that someone is plotting something against them . Unfounded suspicions, insecurities, incorrect judgments…. they are profiles that can sometimes fall into the paranoid.

• Often, it is also difficult for us to establish bonds of trust with these people, because from them we only get their sanction, their reproach, their sharp gaze thinking the worst of us.
• To this low self-esteem is added, in addition, their little closeness, and the null affectivity.

Any feeling full of emotion and closeness can become threatening to your cold and calculating mind. There is seldom tenderness, hence they themselves fall into a kind of vicious circle : distrust- bad thoughts- people avoiding them- feeling of loneliness- anger- distrust once again.

How to deal with ill-thought-out people

We know, sometimes it costs and can lead to exasperation. But we must see all those gaps that really make up this type of poorly thought out people: their lack of self-esteem, their loneliness, their low emotional empathy and in essence … their ability to be happy.

• On the other hand, there is an aspect that we must take into account. If these behaviors are extreme and continuous, it is very possible that we are facing a paranoid personality disorder. In case of problematic situations, it is necessary to recommend that person to seek specialized help.
• Putting distance is not always the only answer, especially if that person who is ill-considered is your father or that friend that you should see more than you would like.

If physical distance is not possible, keep an emotional distance, prevent what they tell you from hurting you.

In our daily lives, we ourselves must also take care not to fall into these drifts guided by excessive distrust.

Thinking badly of others almost every moment, ends up leaving us cornered in the most absolute loneliness and also in suffering. Let’s deal with these situations. Let us also defend ourselves from those who dare to violate our psychological and emotional stability with their constant conspiracies and mistrust. Nobody deserves to live this way.